After three years of major life changes – parents and relatives dying, a huge career shift, making my health a priority and turning fifty – I’d become jaded and disillusioned with social media. Each day I witnessed people “Liking” or regurgitating what other people shared on their newsfeed – there was rarely any original content. The level of engagement was low. It made me feel sad.
I lamented for months on my next step. Albeit drastic, I trusted my intuition and deleted my Facebook account. (In this day and age, some people equate this step with committing professional suicide.) Click below to watch the YouTube video…
I HAD to reflect (without distraction) on what my life priorities were, get back to basics on how I wanted to interact with people, and decide for once and for all whether social media deserved a place in my life.
After five months of soul-searching, I felt comfortable returning into the public eye and did so in a way that felt legitimate, honest and true for me. All of my social media content needed to have a personal touch and share thoughts that originate directly from me. I made a YouTube video to idenfy more details on what happened and what my conclusions were. (Click here to watch the YouTube video.)
All that to say, if you need to go offline to clear your head and get away from the distraction of the busy world around you, do it in a way that works best for you. Remember that there’s no time limit for being ofline.
Remember that what you’re doing is a solitary exercise. The majority of people around you are completely unaware of how hooked they are on social media. You may go through withdrawl and feel isolated (it’s an eye-opening experience). People will not not understand what you’re doing and may think you’re being extreme. (One friend actually ordered me to come back onto social media)
Take time to reflect on
- what is happening around you,
- where you’re NOT happy AND where you are,
- why you’re using social media in the first place (I originally joined Facebook to reconnect with old high school friends),
- how you feel when you are disconnected from everyone,
- what’s on your bucket list,
- on the life you’ve created and what you want to do long term, and
- who the most meaningful people in your life are.
This kind of thought and feeling process gives you time to tune in and determine what your heart really wants – and needs. Only you know what’s important and most meaningful for you. No one can do this process for you – it belongs to you.
When – and if – you choose to return from solitude your goal will be to do it in a way that feels best for you to express what’s in your heart to the people around you and to the world.
Have you ever felt like you needed to disconnect? Have you EVER deleted your social media accounts? I’d love to know more. Inspire others by sharing your comments and thoughts below.